My advice is to set a small goal – maybe one date over the next two months. Scroll through some dating apps looking for just one person you'd like to take for coffee.
Also, try to reframe this issue – or call it something else.
Is your partner unmotivated because they are having trouble keeping all of their balls in the air?
Or is there an underlying issue that is going to threaten the happiness of your relationship long term?
Because showering is a waste of water and I like the way body odor smells sometimes and I don't care if that makes me a true freak.
Maybe these aren't signs you're dating someone who's not motivated, but signs that you care too much about your physical appearance. But in all seriousness — and without getting too defensive — motivation is a matter of perspective.
I'm 28-years-old and I'm sure that I looked like a complete slacker.
But the truth is that I was helping take care of a terminally ill parent — a detail so sensitive, I never revealed it on a first date.
But when it comes to getting out of bed in the morning? As for whether or not I brushed my teeth today — who are you, my mom?
Yeah, I'm a freelancer, which translates to a stained t-shirt and cargo pants.