Why dating is good
If we don’t get the instant results, we think the date is a bust and look to move on.After all, with the plethora of people online, our dream partner is just the next click away, right? It created this false sense of expectations and a sense of entitlement that isn’t realistic in real life. Big,” but only realize that he doesn’t exist when they are in their late 30’s or 40’s. Your dating profile has to pop and stand out from the rest of the crowd.Too much emphasis is on the photo, but that is how the system is set up. This is the Sex and the City syndrome I mentioned above.I have a theory on why it’s so hard to find love online. But, when we go out on an actual date, we are disappointed because we don’t get the same emotional sensation that we get when we watch a movie. You have to sell yourself so that others want to go out with you and see what you’re all about. Online dating is hard because we are “browsing” profiles, making judgments based only on a photo. By then, the pool of quality partners has shrunk, and they are left with mostly “undesirables.”Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying it’s only women who are the problem. Television and movies have brainwashed us to want and expect one thing. Many profiles have the same types of photos and say the same thing, i.e. I love to travel…” It takes skill to write a compelling dating profile.While romanticizing relationships and falling in love in movies is nothing new, it seems the years and years of being exposed to Hollywood romance has taken its toll on society.I don’t know what men and women expect a good first date to be anymore.
We need to curb our use of technology (I mean texting all the time) and communicate over the phone and without using emojis all the time.You can learn so much more from a phone conversation with someone and less gets lost in translation over the phone than it does through texting. Before online dating sites took off, it was hard to meet people if you weren’t in an academic environment, such as college.After school ends, other than the job, or a bar, where do people who are looking for love meet each other? If you’re lucky, you might meet your perfect someone in the produce aisle of the market, but this is a long shot.Whatever happened to going out a few times and getting to know a person before deciding if there is a connection or chemistry?I think a lot of good relationships never get off the ground because they are never given the chance to develop. Don’t get me started with this one because I’ll tell you right now, I hate texting.